Genuine Healing in the Mind and Heart

healing your hurting mind

I once had a therapist tell me something about healing that I didn’t fully appreciate until about three years after she said it. She said: “The story you’re telling yourself about what happened may be the thing that needs healing more than what actually happened.” I nodded politely in the moment, filed it somewhere in […]

When Your Heartfelt Prayer Goes Unanswered

persistence in prayer

I have a prayer I’ve been praying for years. Not decades, but long enough that there have been seasons where I’ve approached it with fresh faith and seasons where I’ve just gone through the motions. Long enough that I’ve had the quiet, uncomfortable thought more than once: What if this particular thing just isn’t going […]

Healing After Hurt from Someone You Love

healing relational wounds

Some wounds are clean. A loss that was no one’s fault. A disappointment that came from circumstances rather than choices. A hard season that arrived without a person attached to it. Those wounds still hurt, and they still require real healing. But there’s a certain straightforwardness to them. You know what happened. You know what […]

How to Renew and Heal Along the Way

renew hope and healing

I broke my wrist once and didn’t know it for three days. I was convinced it was just a bad sprain, so I wrapped it, adjusted my grip on things, started using my other hand for tasks that required any real pressure, and told myself it would probably renew itself and feel better by the […]

When You Need Permission to Renew

permission to heal and renew

Nobody told me I was allowed to stop. I come from a long line of people who push through without stopping to renew. It’s not a bad inheritance, honestly. There’s real grit in my family tree. People who showed up when showing up was hard, who kept their commitments even when the cost was high, […]

3 Lessons on Growing: How to Let Go

lessons on growing

I kept a journal from my early twenties that I reread a few years ago. It was my way of measuring how well I’d been growing in my faith, in my spiritual walk, in life. I’m not sure what I was expecting. Maybe some nostalgic warmth, a few cringe-worthy fashion references, the general amusement of […]

When You Want to Grow and It Hurts

pruning hurts but it's necessary to grow

I didn’t expect the year I asked God to grow me to be one of the hardest years I can remember. Looking back, I’m not sure what I thought would happen. Maybe a quiet deepening. A gentle stretching. Some new insight arriving on a Tuesday morning with my coffee, leaving me wiser and largely undisturbed. […]

Fixed: A Closing Word on What FOCUS Really Means

Focus on Jesus

We’ve covered a lot of ground this month, exploring the truths at the foundation of focus. We talked about distraction and the way it slips in quietly to scatter your peace before you even realize it’s happening. We talked about comparison, and how someone else’s highlight reel can silently rewrite the story you’re telling yourself […]

What Focus Looks Like When Life Keeps Knocking You Down

focus on getting back up after you've been knocked down

Some people understand focus as a discipline of the mind. A practice. Something you work on in the quiet, controlled moments of your day. And then life happens. And focus becomes an act of survival, of stubborn faith, of choosing to keep your eyes fixed when everything around you is falling apart. I want to […]

How to Stay in Focus When Progress Feels Invisible

focus on the steps in front of you

There’s a particular kind of hard that doesn’t get discussed enough when it comes to focus. It’s not the “hard” of a crisis, loss, or dramatic setback. It’s the hard of showing up, doing the work, staying faithful, and seeing absolutely nothing change. You’re doing everything right. Praying. Moving. Being obedient. And yet, from where […]